I got the pulsatin' rhythmical remedy ([info]busychild424) wrote,
@ 2008-08-03 22:11:00
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I remember a long time ago (but can't be bothered to find the post right now) when I posted a big ranting vent about my high school sweetheart and her refusal to let me have anything to do with the child we had together.

Yesterday that child, my biological daughter, who is now 12 and who I've never been able to talk to or be with, sent me a message on Facebook.

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[info]ladyofthenut
2008-08-04 03:37 am UTC (link)
!!!

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[info]busychild424
2008-08-04 04:13 am UTC (link)
I know!

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[info]deathstar461
2008-08-04 03:38 am UTC (link)
that is so totaly awesome.

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[info]busychild424
2008-08-04 04:14 am UTC (link)
It's pretty cool :-)

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[info]drlaurac
2008-08-04 03:49 am UTC (link)
WOW! I hope she gets to meet you and your son!

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[info]busychild424
2008-08-04 04:14 am UTC (link)
Me too. Gotta work with her parents and see how it goes.

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[info]stolenstarz
2008-08-04 04:11 am UTC (link)
wow!

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[info]intervigilum
2008-08-04 04:19 am UTC (link)
That's fucking amazing, Josh. It sounds like it could work out to be a really good situation, and I hope that's what it turns out to be.

She's turning into an adult, slowly but surely. And they can't keep her away from you forever, if she's determined. Even if they are determined too, there's always age eighteen.

Much hope and love! <3<3

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[info]yrs
2008-08-04 07:02 am UTC (link)
That's crazy!!!!

And awesome all that the same time, huh?

Good luck with all that!

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[info]hottergirl01
2008-08-04 07:07 am UTC (link)
that's so fucking !!!!!...there are no words!

i wish my dad wanted me. he really quite honestly doesn't give a shit about me. you're lucky.

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[info]adr0ck
2008-08-04 03:10 pm UTC (link)
WHOA I AM FLOORED!

you're going to talk to her, right? i'm sure you will, why would i even ask that? just saying -- having been that child -- i still AM that child -- it had to take a lot of guts for her to do that. who knows what she's been told. she needs to know that you wanted to be in her life.

holy crap. that's awesome!!

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[info]busychild424
2008-08-04 03:31 pm UTC (link)
Yes, I'm already talking to her, and making it clear that I wanted to be part of her life and still do. I'm also trying to work with her parents to make sure everything is kosher, though I haven't gotten much feedback.

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[info]adr0ck
2008-08-04 03:35 pm UTC (link)
well, if all else fails, she can do whatever she wants in 6 years. as long as you can keep tabs on one another until then (where you're living) then you're set. but definitely if they will get on board it will make things much better.

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[info]pobbly
2008-08-04 06:51 pm UTC (link)
Sounds like great news...when you say her parents, was she adopted out?

Hope you guys can make it all work...

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[info]busychild424
2008-08-04 07:01 pm UTC (link)
Ironically, an old friend of mine (we're still on okay terms) ended up marrying my ex, and because I knew the guy and stuff, it was easy for me to sign papers allowing him to adopt her. He's been my point of contact obviously, since the ex still hates my guts.

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[info]kakita_shisumo
2008-08-05 11:58 am UTC (link)
That's really AWESOME news, man!

(Uh, who married her again...?)

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[info]busychild424
2008-08-05 01:30 pm UTC (link)
Tim. I don't think you know him.

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[info]sqrfruit
2008-08-04 08:42 pm UTC (link)
Wow! Coming from an estranged-from-father situation myself, I really hope things work out between you two. It could be a very touchy situation, but the fact that she contacted you is a good sign. Best of luck to you!

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[info]mossymonkey
2008-08-05 01:59 pm UTC (link)
I'd be willing to bet that things'll work out. Sounds like you're being respectful of all the feelings in play, too, and that's really admirable, not that I have anything to compare this to in my experience.

Kind of puts a new spin on the therm "social networking site" though, doesn't it?

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[info]busychild424
2008-08-05 02:24 pm UTC (link)
I should have considered being contacted by her through that medium as a possibility, but it never crossed my mind. It's actually a really good way to start.

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[info]elizabethxiii
2009-08-12 07:47 pm UTC (link)
WOW. HOW THE FUCK DID I MISS THAT ONE. i didn't even know you HAD a kid in high school! woah. well that is really exciting.

so it's been a year...what the hell happened?

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[info]busychild424
2009-08-12 07:53 pm UTC (link)
Um, it seems to have kinda just fizzled out for now. I messaged her again in October on her birthday to say happy birthday, and she responded thanks, but that's kinda it. I don't know what's behind that - whether she got as much as she was comfortable with, or whether there was some influence from the parents for her to back off. I'm not pushing it right now. She'll talk to me more, when she's ready, I'm confident.

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